The mere edges of His ways

May 26th, 2017

Another adoptive mom emailed me earlier this year with a request.  Would I be willing to contribute a chapter to a book of personal stories about adoption?  This book is for the purpose of encouraging other adoptive parents who are in the trenches.  Yes, I do want to be part of this endeavor.

In the course of time, I spent a day at A Quiet Place and wrote the story of Tommy and our family.  This week, I finally sent it off to the adoptive mom.  I have her permission to share her response with you.

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Thank you for sending your story. You have been such a help to me, and I had no idea you have been through so much. Your trench was so deep, oceanic even.

I had an email written up for you that I had hoped would be encouraging. I used my youngest daughter’s nap time. I didn’t send it because I wanted to pray about it some more. Immediately after I got her up, my older six-year-old daughter turned to me and asked me a random question.

She said, “What happened to your bees?”

My bees….

“Oh,” I told her, “They drowned.”

When I started to say it, the words got stuck in my throat. They had died back in January. I realized the significance of the statement, because I had been writing you an email about Tommy’s passing.

She then asked me, “Why did they drown?”

I was stuck. I thought for a moment and said, “I don’t know.” And she said, “Ok,” and walked away.

Truly, I don’t know why all my bees chose to drown themselves in their sugar water one day. It was upsetting to me, and I have no idea why it happened. It was a weird thing that’s not even on any beekeeper web-forum. Whenever I look at my empty bee hive, I’m sad, and I think, “Why the heck did that happen?”

Bees are nothing compared to a child, and I’m not saying that.

All I’m feeling is that God is telling me that I don’t know why that happened to Tommy.

My ways aren’t His ways, my thoughts aren’t His thoughts, His ways are higher than my ways, and His thoughts higher than my thoughts. So I’m not going to send you the other email that I had hoped would be encouraging. I’ll just let you know that God spoke through my six-year-old today to point blank tell me that I don’t know why, and that’s all He chose to share with me.

 

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When Job’s three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him. When they saw him from a distance, they could hardly recognize him; they began to weep aloud, and they tore their robes and sprinkled dust on their heads. Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.

 

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

 

This photo of Tommy was taken three years ago this weekend, at the Big Families and Friends Picnic.

Tom-Tom at the big picnic

 

 

What God has done: Children from Pleven

May 24th, 2017

Katie before~

Katie August 2011

 

Katie after~

Katie after 2

 

Niko before~

Niko before

 

Niko after~

Niko after

 

Samantha before~

Samantha before

 

Samantha after~


Samantha after

 

Sam before~

Sam before at 6 years old

 

Sam after~

Sam after 2

 

Misha and Judah before, with new daddy (top), Misha after (left), Judah after (right)~

Misha before at age 4 and Judah before at age 8 plus afters four years later

 

David before~


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David after~


david after

 

Jonny before~

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Jonny after~

jonny after

 

Sebastian before~


Sebastian before 2

 

Sebastian after~

Sebastian Nine after at age 6

 

Jaxon before~

Jaxon before 2

 

Jaxon after~

Jaxon after 2

 

Christiana before~

Crista before

 

Christiana after~

crista after 2

 

Jaele before~

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Jaele after~

 

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Keith before (left) and after (right)~

keith before and after

 

Lina before~

 

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Lina after~

Lina after 2

 

Maia before~

Maia Moss before

 

Maia after~

Maia Moss after

 

Ethan (left) and Eli (right) before~

Ethan L Eli R pick up

 

Ethan after~

Eli after (2)

 

Eli after~

Eli after (1)

 

Kolina before~


Kolina before

 

Kolina after~

Kolina after

 

Hasya before~

hasya before

 

Hasya after~

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Victory before~

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Victory after~

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Simon before~

Simon before

 

Simon after~

simon after 2

 

Johnathan before (left) and after (right)~

Johnathan before and after (1)

 

Charity before (left) and after (right)~

Charity before and after

 

Penny before~

Penny before at 12 years old

 

Penny after~

 

Penny after

 

Sarai before~

sarai before (1)

 

Sarai after~

sarai after

 

Elijah before (left) and after (right)~

Elijah before at age 4 wearing 18-24 mo then after at age 6 wearing 5-6

Ethan before~

Ethan Robbins before at age 11

 

Ethan after~

Ethan Robbins after at age 15

 

Elaina before~

 

 

Elaina after~

Elaina after 2

 

Sarah before~

sarah after (2)

 

Sarah after~

sarah after (1)

 

 

Krassi before~

 

Krassi before

 

Krassi after~

Krassi after

 

Ana before~

Ana Miner before

 

Ana after~

 

Ana Miner after

 

Anna before~

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Anna after~

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Gabe before~

Gabe - before

 

Gabe after~

 

Gabe - after (2)

 

Tony before~

Tony before

 

Tony after~

 

Tony after 2

 

“Brandi” before~

 

Anna before

 

“Brandi” after~

Anna after

 

Ben before~

 

Ben Thornton first visit

 

Ben after~

Ben after 2

 

Milen (left) before and Milen (right) after~

Milen before then 5 months after coming home at age 14

 

Mira before~

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Mira after~

Tsvetomira after

 

Always remembering three very special boys…Adam, Tommy, and Matthew.

 

 

 

 

If you adopted an older child from Pleven…

May 10th, 2017

…and you would like him or her to be included in an upcoming post, please email me at susanna@theblessingofverity.com.  I’m including each child’s first name with before and after photos–no other identifying information!

Thirty-five of the children are currently included, and there are SO many more I would love to add!  So please don’t hesitate to email!  Thank you so much!