So far this summer…

July 10th, 2016

[NOTE: We have Mindy Walls to thank for the photos in this post, as she took nearly all of them.  Thank you, Mindy!]

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This first group of photos is from the 10th annual Big Families and Friends picnic.  Mindy captured some great shots of other people besides our family, but as always, I’m uncomfortable featuring them here on our blog.  I’d like my friends to relax around me and not wonder whether they’ll appear here before the multitudes.

 

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The down side of that approach is that our blog looks like we’re all about us; however, in real life it’s deeply satisfying to gather a bunch of people together who enjoy being with each other whether I’m present or not.  Creating happiness brings happiness.

Maybe it’s how a chef feels to see others enjoying a feast he prepared; he doesn’t have to eat it himself to find fulfillment in the making of it.

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This picnic is one of the highlights of the year for many families.  Every year, I hear parents telling me their kids can’t wait until next year’s picnic.  And that’s enough to keep us going year after year.

We never know who else will show up because we don’t ask anyone to RSVP.  We have no formal agenda other than eating.

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The kids do, however!  The favored sport used to be baseball.  Within the past five years, ultimate frisbee has become the favorite.

Several years back, our oldest son Joseph organized an informal ultimate frisbee night for any young people we know who want to play.  That still happens every Wednesday night during the season of long daylight hours; sometimes Josie likes to tag along with her older siblings on Wednesday evenings.  Most Sundays after church, you would find a mixed-age group of kids out playing in a nearby grassy stretch.  Our oldest four and many of their friends also form a team in an area ultimate frisbee league and play most Friday nights year ’round.  They did take a break during one season last fall and early winter, as Daniel decided their help was needed to work on the addition every available evening.

 

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The kids jumped right into playing shortly after the first several families arrived at the picnic.

Daniel is on the left in the blue shirt; Joshua on the right in green.

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Every year when January rolls around, we breathe a sigh of relief when “our” pavilion at this gorgeous park is again available to be reserved for Memorial Day Saturday.

 

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A great bunch of kids who know how to work hard and play hard~

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One of the reasons our favorite way to show hospitality is to organize and provide a venue for others to meet and connect–Joe and I are usually very occupied with the needs of one or more of our children.  We don’t assume we’ll get a chance to sit and chat with friends if all our children are with us, but we’re pleased and grateful when it happens.

So happy Mindy captured this shot of Superdaddy in action.  Believe me, friends, this family would go nowhere fast without some serious teamwork.  It is a privilege to do life with this man wherever God calls us to go.

 

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Joshua turned nineteen this past spring.  He works very hard and is a valued employee at two jobs–one in animal husbandry for Sight and Sound Theatres and one as a landscaper for Tree of Life Services.

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Laura and Joshua watching some of the kids play sand volleyball.  These two both spent a week in South Carolina last month for a Totally His youth conference with some of their friends in our church fellowship.  This was Laura’s first year to be part of the conference.

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Joseph is on the left in the lime green.  Caleb is the guy in the middle with the red shirt; our families met for the first time in 2007 at the very first big picnic, and their friendship has enriched our lives ever since.

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We have the park until the sun sets.

 

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One young woman brings her dog every year; I wish I had photos of Katie interacting with it!  We’d like to get another puppy someday, but not until we have an airtight system in place to keep it from running onto the road in front of our house.

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Mindy shot this photo of Nathaniel with her cell phone the Sunday we invited our church fellowship here for a picnic.  That made her decide to go get her good camera out, and I’m so glad she did!

We realized that this baby probably thinks Mindy is one of his older sisters.

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Daniel and Jane throwing a frisbee around before the picnic.  Joseph told me that Jane is very good at this game; they’re eager for her to turn sixteen in a year and a half so she can join the league and add her considerable skill to their team.

 

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Big brother, little brother.  Joshua and seven-year-old Stephen~

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The little kids enjoyed the swing while waiting for our friends to arrive, haha!

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You can generally find Josie wherever the action is!  We got her this “Rainbow is my favorite flavor” shirt, because…remember the girl who has a different favorite color every day?

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Ben is a verbally precocious three who reminds us of Joseph at the same age.

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There is always a small army of boys when our church fellowship gets together.

Here they’re off to conquer the woods behind our house.  This year we have the added advantages of a giant dirt mountain on our property and a small pool for water battles when it’s time to cool off.  Nine-year-old James is on the left in the bright blue.

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Daniel is turning twenty-one in a couple of months.  He’s been spending a lot of time recently with a certain lovely young lady and her family, and so far, all parties are pleased with this turn of events.

He’s gradually been taking over more and more of the family carpentry business, Musser Carpentry, LLC, and plans to be its sole owner some day.  He also worked some evening and Saturday hours for Joe’s CPA brother during tax season this year.

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Not really enough people for a proper game, but they managed to have a lot of fun!

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Joe’s uncle and aunt live next door and have a large yard in front of their house.  They often urge our kids to use their yard whenever they want to, and it does come in handy for ultimate frisbee!

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These two young ladies walked down the road to visit the neighboring alpacas and horses.  They ended up being joined by a large crowd of their friends.

 

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Our sidewalk often boasts an entire map laid out in sidewalk chalk.  Ten-year-old John Michael is in the middle of this photo, perched on the railing.  Nine-year-old Peter is on the right wearing the Race Against Racism t-shirt.

Their buddy Kyle is on the left; his oldest sister Lindsay married our oldest son Joseph.  Kyle’s talented mom Deanna blogs regularly from her lovely and warmly welcoming Creekside Cottage; she was an unfailing source of inspiration and encouragement to me in my unfamiliar task of designing the decor and choosing the furnishings for our addition.

 

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Lindsay doesn’t play ultimate frisbee any more due to a past knee injury and surgery.  She and Josie hung out on the sidelines where they could chat together and cheer the teams on.  Lindsay often seeks Josie out and spends time connecting with her.

 

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A great swell of thankfulness rises in my heart every time I think about what God did in bringing Joseph and Lindsay together and see the close friendship they share.  She is one of the most pleasant, unflappable, down-to-earth and unassuming people I have ever met, truly a gift to our intense son and the rest of our family.  The other day, we were putting some dates on the calendar together, and I warned her that since Verity had a minor surgery scheduled for one of the dates, I was unsure what state they’d find the household in when they arrived for supper.  She said breezily, “We don’t mind chaos.”

 

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The weather was perfect–not too humid and hot enough to make the shade desirable.

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Peter is a very loyal guy and often comes to check in with his friend Josie.

 

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Speaking of enjoying the shade…

 

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Joshua ended up with one blue leg and one red…goofy kids…

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Nathaniel is six months old now.  He marked this momentous occasion by cutting his first tooth.

 

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Our new favorite hang-out place.  We eat lunch out here almost every day.  It’s an amazing experience to live in a space that was just a vision on paper a year ago.

We asked a hardscaping contractor to come by to give us an estimate for that retaining wall.  He could tell that $20K was a rather shocking number for us to hear, I guess.  He turned out to be a really decent guy.  When he heard the purpose of this addition, he not only helped us brainstorm an alternative plan for a wall that should cost about half that amount, but he inquired about some available donated funds on our behalf, and called later to tell us that a local church will be donating $5K toward the project.

Another couple donated a large sum to cover the remaining amount we owed our builder (so he can pay the rest of his sub-contractors) and included some extra to help toward finishing the septic.  That was a blessing, as that debt was weighing heavily both on us and on our builder.  God has not left us hanging; He is continuing to provide as we knew He would.

 

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You may remember he started out as Baby Ben, but somewhere along the line he turned into Ben Bean, which is usually shortened to Bean or Beans.

 

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On the hottest days, we’re happy for a spot of cold water.

We’ve realized that Josie has the priceless gift of seeing through outward appearances to what is most important.

 

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I used to question whether she would be disappointed with our little old messy house that’s full of noisy people and usually has dirty floors and dishes waiting in the sink.

 

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We can’t compete with greater incomes to go all around to fewer people, and we don’t even try.  I thought she might look down on these imperfections, but they don’t even register with her.

 

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She doesn’t judge people for their very secondhand clothes, very used cars or very lived-in houses because she doesn’t care about these things.

 

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What she sees is what’s really here, and that’s the love.

 

 

 

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I recently told her that this way of seeing the world is a priceless gift and I hope she never loses it.

 

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These pool photos were taken the week Laura was in South Carolina.  At different times, Jane wanted to help Josie do something fun, and this was one of those times.

 

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Jane told me afterward, “I think Josie had a good time.”

 

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Then she added, “She’s not nearly as heavy as I thought she would be.  She’s so fun to help!”

 

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Josie was ready to come in and dry off.  Perhaps I’ve already mentioned that sometimes she chooses to change to pajamas before supper so she doesn’t miss out on any of the after-supper family fun.  Here she is trying on my flip-flops.  Isn’t she adorable?

 

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She loves helping in the kitchen.

 

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We had no dishwasher for a couple of weeks, so here we are washing dishes together.

 

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Meanwhile, some of the other kids put soap in the pool and washed it out.  We try to have the pool clean and filled once or twice each week during the hot weeks.  Josie and the younger kids play in it as long as they want to, then the monkeys tend to finish it off.

 

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Some of our kids would live outdoors all summer if we’d let them.  They often choose to sleep in their tents up in the woods.  Laura just carries Josie down the hill in the morning when her aide comes to start her routine.

The second home health agency we added is turning out to be a big blessing to us.  It can be tough to find someone willing to come for just two hours first thing in the morning.  We prayed for just the right person, and God sent her.  She lives ten minutes away and her next job doesn’t start until afternoon.  Once Josie is through her morning routine, we can take it from there.  Morning is just that super jam-packed time of day when a lot of our kids require help and/or supervision at the same time.

 

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Mike and Jenny, our pastor and his wife, were given two buy-one-admission-get-one-admission-free tickets to a local kid place and decided to invite the four monkeys out for a fun evening.

 

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They treated them to supper and ice cream, made sure they had a good time, and brought them back deliciously late.

 

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What a very brave as well as kind thing for a childless upper-middle-aged couple to do!

 

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The boys slept well that night, and we’re pretty sure Mike and Jenny did, too!

 

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I told the boys that God might have showered our family with lots of children rather than lots of money, but He loves to provide extras in one way or another!

 

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This year, we celebrated the Fourth on the Third because the weather forecast was calling for thunderstorms on the Fourth.  Joseph and Lindsay were coming over both nights, anyway, so we just switched plans.  They came again the next night for walking tacos, ice cream jello and a funny movie.

 

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It began innocently enough…

 

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Okay kids, on your mark, get ready…

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The hazards of being a close bystander~

 

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They were laughing at a video of John Michael doing an impressive flying leap and belly flop into the pool from where he stood on top of the sandbox frame.

 

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I’m soaked to the skin, anyway; might as well jump in!

 

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Some of us stayed a sensible distance from the action!

 

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Wait, is that…?

 

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Yes, Joshua is really taking Mom for a wagon ride.   He’s strong as a horse and ended up taking us on a two mile round trip.

 

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Setting up by flashlight.  Wonder what those Amish cows think of our shenanigans, heh heh.

 

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Joseph gave him this t-shirt for Father’s Day.  “One dad to rule them all,” it says.

 

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Many times recently it has come to my mind that if God lets Joe and me live to old age, we’re going to look back on these days as some of the happiest of our life together.

Those were my thoughts as I sat in our dark front yard with deep contentment in my heart and watched our annual Independence Day celebration unfold, savoring the traditional root beer float while nursing my snuggly littlest under a cozy blanket, smiling at Katie’s enormous delight in the fireworks, laughing helplessly at the quick-witted banter of our oldest kids.

 

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It was fun seeing these photos later; I missed this part of the evening, as I was in the house putting our four littlest ones to bed.

 

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People like to tell me, “I don’t know how you do it all.”

You know what?  I don’t even come close to doing it all, and that’s just how God wants it to be.

If I had unlimited resources at my disposal, and if God hadn’t come along and interrupted our vision for our family and replaced it with His, I would have wasted my life futilely trying to make our family fit my former idea of perfect.

 

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He had to stretch me so far beyond what grown-ups consider prudent (prudence is overrated!), so far beyond my ability to control processes and outcomes, to move me and my small-minded vision out of the way and accomplish His.

 

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His vision for our family was to become a haven where His kind of love rules and His kind of healing can take place.

 

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In an interview about her book, “None Like Him,” author Jen Wilkin states,

“I want readers to see how we commit idolatry when we try to take on attributes that are not ours to possess.”

 

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“For example, once we recognize our desire for limitlessness as destructive, we are better able to willingly and joyfully submit to our God-given limits.”

 

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“Human limitations predate the Fall. Adam and Eve were created to be limited and needy, to be dependent on their Creator. We are not designed for limitlessness, and we are crushed under its demands when we pursue it. Recognizing that limits are for our good (and for God’s glory) helps us work with rather than against them.”

 

 

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She goes on to say, “Rather than posing as self-sufficient, we can embrace our neediness as evidence that God’s grace is our only hope.”

 

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As a mom of many children, I have many limitations.  Additionally, as a mom of kids with special needs, I have taken their disabilities onto myself, bringing further limitations into my life.

Every single limitation in my life is a gift from my Maker custom-designed to move my strong-willed self aside so I can see Him work.  A gift indeed!

Therefore I will not just “try to accept” but will embrace my human limitations, my frailties, my inability to get it all together, and my tendency to flub things up all the more gladly, so that Christ’s power may rest on me and work through me.

Christ’s power working through our weakness.  That about sums up our family.

 

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12 Responses to “So far this summer…”

  1. Erin says:

    Hi Susanna,
    I just wanted to send you a quick note – I’ve been reading your blog for several years now but I believe this is the first time I’ve commented. Just wanted to say that I loved the picture post and glimpses of your family life and I was SO encouraged by your words. Thank you.
    :) Erin

  2. Carol says:

    Thank you for all the great photos and the thoughts on limitations, Susanna. I found them very encouraging. I was reminded of these verses which have always been meaningful to me since a friend shared them with me in high school. It was the first time I had reflected on the freedom found in restriction. I often have thought of them since in the context of the limitations of my own personality and abilities, my circumstances, etc.
    Psalm 15:5-6
    Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.

  3. Susanna says:

    Thank you for reminding me of that Scripture, Carol! Another one that came to my mind often in the past as a mother of many young children is this one from Psalm 139: “You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.”

    As I reflect now, in the past I pulled passages like this one out when in restrained circumstances, comforting myself that God had a good plan for all of us in the stints of pregnancy bed rest or the time-consuming feeding issues a few of our children had. However, I thought of these times as temporary interruptions to a well-ordered life. Children don’t stay young and needy, I won’t be on bedrest forever, Verity will learn to eat, you can manage to bear almost anything well if you know it will last only a short period of time, I can even learn to experience the joy and beauty in those tough times, etc, etc.

    But I don’t think I was truly embracing God’s limitlessness and my limitations as much as schooling myself not to give in to my inner impatience with the temporary challenges He had sent, looking forward to having the freedom to get back to what for me was normal life once the challenges had resolved.

    However, a large portion of the needs we have in our household, including the as-yet-undiagnosed Asperger’s of one of the Musser monkeys, are not temporary like being a nursing mom and needing to sleep and eat more to maintain a good milk supply. I have easily felt like there must be something wrong with me because it’s often next to impossible for me to get to an organizational project or bake a batch of banana bread.

    Joe has been reminding me that I have a lot of limitations, I am realizing that I may be more or less in this position permanently, and just at this juncture along comes this insightful interview with Jen Wilkin that helps to deepen and broaden my understanding of the big picture of reality. Her insights help me truly see my limitations are built in to my design and are not due to sin or failure on my part. Instead of berating myself that I must be failing if I can’t even get to church half the time, my many limitations can be springboards that enlarge my view of God, to exalt and worship this God who is wholly other. They also serve to move me and my agenda firmly out of the way so He is free to work in and through our family.

    The interview spurred me on to re-read “The Knowledge of the Holy,” by A. W. Tozer, and then to read Jen Wilkin’s book, “None Like Him: Ten Ways God is Different From Us (and Why That’s a Good Thing).” Probably at the cost of getting to that organizational project or baking banana bread, haha!

  4. Tami Ann Swaim says:

    I like this!

    “Human limitations predate the Fall. Adam and Eve were created to be limited and needy, to be dependent on their Creator. We are not designed for limitlessness, and we are crushed under its demands when we pursue it. Recognizing that limits are for our good (and for God’s glory) helps us work with rather than against them.”

  5. Julie R. says:

    Such a fun, picture-filled post! Thanks for sharing, Susanna! Enjoy your time in upper Michigan – my former stomping grounds, absolutely God’s country! Still hope we can meet someday! Julie in Peoria

  6. maureen a. ;) says:

    I’m in love with that picture of Joshua pulling you in the wagon! You should frame that one. :)

    Favorite take away from this post: “If I had unlimited resources at my disposal, and if God hadn’t come along and interrupted our vision for our family and replaced it with His, I would have wasted my life futilely trying to make our family fit my former idea of perfect.”

    Thank you, friend, for always reminding me of what is truly important ~ following hard after Him and resting in His guidance and provision. 💗

  7. Cassandra says:

    So I was sitting all day today at Sloan Memorial (NYC) with a friend who has cancer. Cancer centers force one to examine priorities. I read your post and lingered over the photos. The visuals breathed life into me as I sat among people filled with either great hope or with great despair. I bet you didn’t imagine your blog would encourage somebody in a cancer center. It did.

  8. Karen says:

    Beautiful! And I echo the above comments, so encouraged and inspired by answers to quandaries I have found myself in, especially this year. What amazing insights on limitations! Will have to find a copy of the book by Jen Wilkin and meanwhile read A.W. Tozer’s book (I know we have it in this house), but like you, the banana bread and organizational projects seem to be on perpetual hold! Hope to meet you someday this side of Heaven! And I hope our daughters who have that special extra chromosome can meet too! God bless you!

  9. Angie Robshaw says:

    I’m sure you know all things orphan advocacy, at least it seems you have a million connections. :) But in case you missed it…
    http://covenantbuilders.blogspot.co.uk/2016/07/shadow-children-giveaway.html
    closes August 1st. 5 beautiful chilren

  10. Susanna says:

    Thank you for the nudge, Angie. That needs to go up there near the top of my priority list. :)

  11. sabrina says:

    Super-love this post and your comment above. I so get it. I used to wait for things to get back to normal, but after a few years, I realize that this is the new normal for us. Getting older on top of the new levels of craziness, just add to the many opportunities to cut myself some slack and trust in Him even more.

  12. Esther Paris says:

    N is blessed by having Mindy as a Sister of the Heart. So is everyone else.

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