There is a good side to living with people with disabilities that I have discovered, but it has to be embraced to be appreciated.
We have to hold plans with a more open hand–be more flexible–than we used to.
Early on in our journey with Verity, I saw this coming, and then deliberately chose to deliberately choose what God would deliberately choose for me.
In other words, I was going to learn to embrace every moment and make it as life-filled and joyous and even humorous as I could.
Since I am going to spend most of my time for the rest of my life caring for the very earthy physical needs of several sweet people with precious eternal souls…
…I may as well learn to enjoy it ALL and not have a complaining spirit, so that I am enjoying most of my life and not complaining about most of my life.
If I go to an event, I enjoy it with all my heart, and if I miss it, or leave early, then I enjoy the quietness at home or the one-on-one time or whatever I’m doing instead of attending the event, and enjoy doing those things with my whole heart.
Another way to state this? “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content.”
God chose this path for me, and it is a path of joy for many reasons that others may not necessarily see on the surface.
Different people have very different standards as to what constitutes a good life, or a hard life.
My life doesn’t feel as hard to me as it looks to some other people, so I wouldn’t want them to judge our work load by their standards.
When sitting on the sidelines of a woman’s meeting with Katie and Verity, quietly keeping them occupied and listening in on the conversation, another woman might feel sorry for me…
…because she wouldn’t want to sit on the floor interacting with a couple of disabled children while there was an interesting discussion going on.
She might put her feelings onto me and think I had it hard, when in fact, I am enjoying myself immensely.
On the other hand, the average woman of two hundred years ago who was incredibly productive with her time would probably think I had it easy.
As for spending all we have on our children with extra needs, I would “very gladly spend and be spent” for Jesus’ sake.
He said that what we do to the least of these, we do to Him.
Will we really begrudge to pour ourselves out for Him, for the least of these?
I say bring it on; it would be an honor to be counted worthy of this privilege.
I will worship toward Your holy temple,
And praise Your name
For Your lovingkindness and Your truth;
For You have magnified Your word above all Your name.
In the day when I cried out, You answered me,
And made me bold with strength in my soul.