“We knew that Claire would be delayed and small. But when we actually met her, her needs looked very scary.
The night after we got her I woke up with my heart racing, having a full-blown panic attack. ‘What if she never walks or talks? What if she can’t hear or see? What if all her teeth need to be pulled?’
But God spoke clearly to me and said, ‘If you don’t stop honoring the enemy with your fears about tomorrow, you will miss the blessings of today.’
This changed me, and I have been able to focus on each day’s blessings and challenges. Tomorrow has blessings and challenges of its own. And He has already covered that day with His grace and provision.”
~Leslie, adoptive mom
A few days from now, this coming Sunday, the files of six precious children will be sent back to the Ministry of Justice in Bulgaria, branded with the words, REJECTED, HOPELESS, UNADOPTABLE, UNWANTED.
Unless God intervenes, and the parents He has chosen for these little ones refuse to honor the enemy with their fears, say “Yes,” to Him, and start walking.
Harvey, 3 years old, has been severely malnourished and neglected and desperately needs his family to bring him home and shower him with all the love he has never received. He has received almost nothing! Just think how he could blossom once he is being given what he most needs!
Brandi, 6 years old, has never experienced how it feels to have a daddy and mommy enfolding her in their warm embrace and telling her she is the sweetest, most kissable baby in the world to them. What Brandi needs most is the same thing everyone else needs most–LOVE! Unlike most of us, she has never received it.
Kramer, 8 years old, has not received the love, therapy, or nutrition he has so needed in order to blossom. Honestly, how would any of us look if our arms and legs didn’t work properly, so we were left alone to starve in a bed for years, then brought out and uncomfortably and insecurely propped up for a stranger behind a camera? This tiny boy is a survivor! Please see his worth and potential!
Chad, 9 years old, seems to be a truly Invisible Child! I can’t stand the thought that there is any child anywhere who is truly unwanted by everyone! Nobody has even asked to see the file of this little human being! Is anyone else out there specifically praying for a family for Chad?
Theodore, 10 years old, is another small child in Pleven who just amazes me with his ability to smile. I’m not the only one who is baffled as to why he hasn’t been chosen yet! Is it his age that’s stopping you? Understand that he is a very young boy developmentally. Please, someone, commit to bring this treasure into your family!
Garnet, 10 years old, sparkling like a jewel half-hidden in a dark place! Look at her bright and shining eyes! What a lovely little newly-discovered treasure she is!
Penny? Her file has been sent back to her government, but it can be requested again! Precious Penny with the soulful eyes and the curly hair has been surviving in Pleven for twelve very long years. She came to us months ago needing a family and instead has received further rejection. Small one, where are your parents??
Over the past couple of years, I’ve had the privilege of getting to know several adoption workers who deeply care about orphans with special needs. They don’t work in the adoption field just because it helps put food on the table. It’s their passion in life to see outcast children become beloved sons or daughters.
I’ve learned a lot from listening to them talk. Did you know that when they receive a batch of the files of newly available children, they can accurately predict which children will get snatched up quickly, and which ones will be overlooked by parent after parent after parent?
They have learned that…
The younger children consistently go faster than the older children.
The girls go faster than the boys. We learned this shortly after committing to adopt Katie. As a mom of seven boys, this was a hard thing for my heart to take in.
The more photogenic children go faster than the less photogenic children.
The less delayed children go faster than the more delayed children.
The less medically needy children go faster than the more medically needy children.
The more independent children go faster than the more dependent children.
Does this knowledge make me feel sad for the children who are being passed over? I confess it does. You see, I understand both sides. I strongly identify with these little ones who don’t measure up to the currently preferred profile. I have witnessed their need for the unconditional love of their own daddies and mommies. I have seen their flesh-and-blood realness.
And we understand very well that not every family is going to be able to adopt a child with significant needs. We know the time and work required to take care of these little ones ; Katie is completely physically dependent on us.
But we also know a little secret!
We know what an unspeakably profound privilege it is to receive a child like this in Jesus’ name! We know the joy that so greatly outweighs the difficulties that we are doing all we can to bring home another child with significant needs!
Did you know that the healthiest children over the age of three are still being moved out of the Pleven baby house to smaller, better orphanages?
This means that most of the children I will be advocating for from now on will not fit the currently preferred profile.
Of the children with special needs in Pleven who do fit the profile (under three or four years old and relatively healthy), they are likely to be chosen by their families very quickly after they’re listed. Very likely before I get my act together to speak on their behalf!
Every orphaned child is a precious human being whose greatest need is for a family! My heart sings for every one of these younger, healthier children! Our family knows what treasures their families will be receiving!
The reality on the other side of this story is a harsh one. Until now, a birds’ eye view of the story reveals that a majority will not choose the boys, the older children, and the ones who look most ugly and retarded to them.
No, no, no!
We know someone who supersedes us and our predictable human logic! Our hope is not in any human reasoning. It’s in the logic, the logos, of God, and in His ability to transform our thoughts into His thoughts.
Our human logic says, “This child’s needs look scary!”
God’s logic says, “There is no fear in love, because perfect love casts out fear.”
Our human logic says, “You don’t look lovely to me.”
God’s logic says, “I make you lovely by loving you.”
Our human logic says, “You’re too old, too damaged. It’s too late for you.”
God’s logic says, “Nobody is too old or too damaged to be redeemed by my love.”
Our human logic says, “This child looks too hard for me to parent; I’ll choose one that looks easier.”
God’s logic says, “Who shall separate you from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?”
Our human logic says, “Does this child have enough value to make the sacrifice worthwhile?”
God’s logic says, “I sacrifice my life to make you my valued son or daughter.”
Our human logic says, “How would this child give back to me?”
God’s logic says, “You need what I have to give. I give myself up for you.”
So yes, from a distance, the future of the rest of the very needy children in Pleven could look hopeless. Just think, after all the miracles that God has done on their behalf, to end up being rejected by potential parents in the United States and therefore sentenced to an adult mental institution until they die, stripped of all human rights and all human dignity.
But no matter how predictable this logical scenario may seem to be…
Our hope is in the God who can change us until we see as He sees, and act as He acts.
When the day comes that my adoption worker friends tell me that the first children being snatched up are those who don’t fit the terms of human logic, those who seem to be neediest, or who don’t appear to have much to give back to their families, I will know that I am seeing the kind of breathtaking miracle that comes when the world has been turned upside down.
Friends, can God do this? Is He really able to keep changing our hearts until they radically reflect His logos instead of mere human logic? Yes, He can! And He is!
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.
Father, we need radical, life-changing open heart surgery. We need you to take out our cold, stony hearts and replace them with hearts of flesh that love as You love and thereby reflect who You are. Hearts that can not fear, because they are so full of You. We are in poverty of spirit before You. We need Your grace. We need You! Take us further up and further in, O God.
I am praying for you, tiny survivor Harvey, that your family will refuse to honor the enemy with their fears! I pray that they will run quickly to get you as they would to their biological child in distress.
Brandi girl, I am praying for your family, the family who will light your world up with smiles and snuggles and teach you to laugh. The family who sees you as God sees you!
Little Kramer, I am praying that God would fling the doors open wide in front of your family, whomever they may be. I pray for open hearts and open opportunities all along their path to you, precious loved boy.
How I pray for you, Chad! I pray for the specific family who will want you to be their son. I pray that God would first open their eyes to His glory and then to the value He has placed on your life.
I pray for you, Theodore, that your family will have eyes to see and accept you for the small boy that you truly are. I pray that they will receive you into their hearts without hesitation or fear!
Oh sweet-faced Garnet, I pray that before another year goes by, you will be learning what it is like to have a daddy and mommy and home! What a little lovie you are!
Penny, you are such a blessing from the Lord! I am praying that He will have mercy on you and send you a family to love you to bits! I will whoop and holler and sob for joy the day I hear that you have a committed family!
To request more information about adopting any of these small ones, please email Andrea Roberts at email@example.com.
You do not need to have a completed home study.
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