For the past three years my husband and I have looked to adoption and have been finding ways to cut expenses so that we can save and afford the cost. Unfortunately, living on one income of an E4 active Airforce it’s difficult. Our oldest son is special needs and we have talked about adopting a child with further needs as we are confident we can greatly provide. If only things were financially better for us we could bring this adoption sooner. My goal is to have enough saved in the next six years. Such a shame that what keeps a child from a good home is a large sum of money.
Vickirae, thank you for bringing up this very important subject, as it is one that unnecessarily causes paralyzing fear in many potential adoptive families.
If your income qualifies you, you do not need to fear the actual costs of adoption. In fact, of all the barriers people see, that one should cause the least concern, and we are not the only special needs adoptive family to say this!
You may be aware that the income of US military families only has to meet 100% of the US poverty guidelines to qualify to adopt. You may not know that the USCIS applies the total of the family’s assets to that number dollar for dollar to come up with the total.
If your income does not qualify you, you can trust that this is God’s hand holding the door closed, and that He can easily open this one if and when He so chooses.
There are many people who cannot themselves adopt, who greatly desire to help adoptive families bring home children with special needs.
There are many grant organizations who offer fundraising support.
There are many creative ideas out there for fundraising.
All the adoptive families I know are very qualified to provide for their child once they’re home, and their home study reflected this fact, but most of them did not start out with some big nest egg that they could use to pay the actual adoption fees themselves. In some cases, if they have a nest egg, it needs to stay right where it is as proof to the powers that be that they can financially handle the needs of their adopted child once he or she is home.
But most of all, this ministry of special needs adoption belongs to God, and He is the one in charge of providing for the costs. It is His job to bring these little ones into the families He has chosen for them, and He can do it with both hands tied behind His back.
He has stated so many times that He is on the side of the needy and outcast! You can take Him at His word in this! We have seen time and time again how perfectly He fills in the gaps for each family as He deems best. He knows who can fundraise and who cannot, who has the extra financial resources and who does not, and exactly how He wants to time each adoption process by how fast or how slowly He provides. The money is truly such a nothing to Him that it is easier for Him to provide thousands of dollars than it is for us to stoop down and pick a penny up off the ground.
I wrote a post nearly two years ago that explains some of what we believe about money based on what we see in God’s word. Please click on the following link to read The Lord is King! [I].
And we have seen solid, practical proof that once the child is home, that our heavenly Father continues to more than honor our trust in Him by marvelous provision. These are not hollow words; He has proven Himself faithful to us and to so many other families in so many ways that we could not recount them all!
We have not paid one penny for months’ worth of expensive formula for Katie. We have had thousands of dollars’ worth of adaptive equipment given to us. We have had clothing given to us. We have had therapists step forward to offer their services for free. We have had others set up a bank account for Katie’s extra expenses that Samaritan Ministries does not share in.
Our God loves to show Himself strong on behalf of those who trust Him!
I want you to know that no matter how great your trust in Him grows to be–and it might be as tiny as a mustard seed!– His trustworthiness is infinitely greater.
“So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”