Question [edited for courtesy]: Do you believe that these children should ONLY be adopted by Christian families?
Answer: My first response to this question, and the rest of what you said, was genuine surprise.
How could I have communicated that “these children should ONLY be adopted by Christian families,” when the thought hadn’t crossed my mind that “these children should ONLY be adopted by Christian families?”
I have expected all sorts of challenges, but whew! I didn’t see this one coming!
I am genuinely sorry that you felt hurt by my words, and would welcome the opportunity to openly and graciously dialogue with you about this. I have in good faith provided my full name and email address for you and others to use.
And your challenge did provide fodder for some good discussion at our house.
We wonder if the misunderstanding arose in part because…
If I sound as though I am writing from a Christian perspective, it’s because I absolutely am.
And if I sound as though I am writing to other Christians, well, I guess I am. It is a public blog, so anyone may read it. But this blog started out as the best way to communicate the story God was telling through our family to many beloved friends and relatives who are spread far and wide. This will quickly become apparent if you skim back through past months. I have a huge affection for the people–real people–I write to, and yes, nearly all of them would identify themselves as Christians.
I do expect that my language will sound foreign and even offensive at times to those who are living from a profoundly different basis of belief and thought. The only way to prevent this is to fail to have any beliefs or thoughts at all about anything of significance, or to remain silent about those beliefs and thoughts.
But when I reported in a recent post that our attorney has so far had only Christian families come to her for help facilitating their special-needs adoptions, I was not actually voicing beliefs or thoughts. I was not prescribing a set of rules, or even sharing a preference. I was stating the fact exactly as our attorney stated it to me.
That fact struck me then as being particularly intriguing, and it strikes me now the same way. Many modern American Christians I know are painfully aware of the problems in the modern American church. We’re not often given glimmers of hope by those who study us and give us reports on our state of spiritual health. But my husband and I still see great evidence that God is moving among His people and changing us down at heart level. All praise to Him!