Q & A: Adoption and obedience

July 21st, 2011

Q:  “Who knows if this is all even possible…it’s a lot of money for us and my husband has not been poring over the several adoption blogs I have and gotten bitten by this adoption bug personally.”

A:  Kim, if you are trusting your heavenly Father to lead your family, you can know that He absolutely will direct your paths!

I haven’t told all of our story here on the blog.  The best parts of it are only known by a tiny handful of people at this point.  Please know that our situation was more impossible on several counts than it may look from where you are.  God’s glory through this adoption dazzles our eyes more brightly as a result.  Perhaps someday He will allow the whole story to be told.  Suffice it to say that God has proven to us that He doesn’t have to wait for ideal circumstances and perfect people in order to get His work done.  In fact, He loves to show His glory by doing the un-doable!

If God so wills adoption for your family…

He can move your husband’s heart.

…He can place you in the necessary financial position.

…He can provide for the adoption expenses in a myriad of ways.

…He can move every obstacle out of your path, including any objections to it that you may have.

…He can give you and your husband such a vision of His power that He fills your eyes, instead of the obstacles.  He can do this over and over again as often as He needs to!

He is doing this for us, He has done it for countless other families, and He can do it for you if He so chooses.

There are a few questions we’d like to ask every Christian family who has never considered them.

If God has adoption for you, how would you know it?
If you don’t think He does, how do you know that?
How closely have you examined the matter?
Has God truly said “No,” to you?
Or have you said “No,” to Him?
Are you committed to following God’s vision for your family, or your own vision for your family?

The answers to those questions are between you and God.  In order to find out the answers, we believe that all He asks is that you start walking, and trust Him to guide you.  If He makes a way for you to keep walking, then walk on in obedience.  You might only take one step before He lays His hand on you and turns you in a different direction.  But trust Him, and walk.  You answer only to Him and He will make His way clear before you.

Does it sound like our family has lost the perspective we had starting out in this process?  Do we now believe that God wants all Christians everywhere to adopt?

Of course we don’t believe that God calls every Christian to adopt.  We do believe that God calls us away from caring for ourselves, and calls us to care for orphans, widows, and other very needy people.  When God pours out His gifts on us, we believe that is His way of providing for the needy.  The greatest practical need of an orphan is for parents.  If a couple walks up to the adoption door, and God says, “No,” or “Not right now,” we don’t believe that nullifies His calling to care for the fatherless.  There are countless ways to use God’s gifts to help meet the needs of orphans, and He will open up opportunities for you.  Even to helping a family get their house ready for a home study or donating to their yard sale!  Every adoptive family is only one part of an extensive adoption team of pray-ers, givers, helpers, and encouragers.

No, we will never be in favor of trying to guilt people into adopting, or doing any of God’s work.  Yes, we still believe that guilt is a bad motivation to do anything, except repent!  We are not the Holy Spirit, and cannot do His work.

The reality is, now our eyes have been opened and we can never go back to not knowing.  From all we have learned, we now know that many, many more families could be adopting than are adopting.  So we pray regularly that God would increasingly move the hearts of His people to adopt, and then make it happen, just like He is doing for us.

And we rejoice that we are seeing Him do that!

“But if the enemy can’t keep us blind, he will try to make us reasonable.  There are giants, and we are like grasshoppers logistically.  ‘It would be foolish to obey the Lord until we have our own set of giants’ would be a reasonable response…but not an acceptable one.

When we calculate instead of obey, we miss the promised land!”

~Steve Osborn

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2 Responses to “Q & A: Adoption and obedience”

  1. Kim says:

    Thanks for this. I can release and rest.

  2. Kendra says:

    “once our eyes are opened, we can’t pretend we don’t know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows that we know and holds us RESPONSIBLE to act.” Prov. 24:12

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