What a ride!

January 19th, 2011

Remember when I wrote that I was praying earnestly that we would not be forced to choose between the two children?

That we were saying yes to both, and that we were putting our trust in God to lead us by closing any doors He chose to close and opening others?

Well, today God made it perfectly clear to us.  God chose for us.  God is being faithful to lead us, just as He said He would do, just as we have been trusting Him to do!

He has provided another family for the little boy, who is listed on Reece’s Rainbow as Lee (not his real name). My sadness was quickly replaced by joy for him, that God is acting for him and is giving him a loving family!

Now, the little girl is not listed on Reece’s Rainbow.  She had been listed in the past, and nobody wanted her, so her file was sent back to her country, and is sitting in a dusty stack of files in a government hallway.  She needs what we are eager to give her, and she needs us as quickly as we can get to her.

Today the second choice for home study agency called us back, not long after we heard “Lee’s” news.  This agency is about twenty minutes from our home, right here in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania, home to a high number of large families.  The response I received was as different from the other agency as day is from night!

I briefly gave the outline of what we were hoping for, and then…

…we are wondering if you would be willing to work with us.


Well, we have a big family.

The social worker stated matter-of-factly that she has worked with many big families, and didn’t see that as an issue.


I was so stunned at this unbelievable response that I ended up playing devil’s advocate!



Even with the severe malnutrition and severe delays?


What if we had asked about being approved for two? Would you still have worked with us?


“How many children do you have?” she asked.


“Oh, pfft, that’s not a big deal,” she said. “I’ve worked with families of twelve or fourteen children.”


Why was the other agency’s response so negative? She explained that some social workers already have their minds made up that big families are a liability.  (Sound familiar?)


Looking forward!

Stephanie told me this afternoon that if we had continued to pursue being approved for two children, it is likely the whole process would have been greatly delayed.  Exactly the opposite of what this precious little girl needs.

God has asked us, “Are you two willing to do this on my timeline?”

Yes, Lord.  Whatever that timeline is.

Joe went and picked up the home study packet.

Deo volente, tonight we fill out the home study paperwork (good thing I love to fill in blanks!) and register online to get our fingerprinting done, tomorrow we mail our application and fee to the Lifeline adoption agency and start the process of roughing in the bathroom.  And maybe run that completed home study application up to the agency.  Deo volente.

Interestingly, Joe’s parents just gave us an anniversary gift that will cover both the Lifeline application fee and the fingerprinting.  Many wonders He has done!

We know that countless brothers and sisters in Christ have been praying faithfully and fervently.  Besides the fact that we can see the answers to those prayers right before our eyes, we know about these prayers because we have received your notes telling us about them!  These notes of encouragement literally “put courage into” us.  Thank you, brothers and sisters!

Another new adoptive mom recently wrote to us~

“I just can’t tell you how happy my heart is tonight that the Lord has encouraged you to keep pressing on….that He has reassured you from His Word.  I knew that I could pray for you, and I and my kids during our home schooling prayer time have been doing that very thing…

I specifically prayed that God would speak to you through His Word, and that He would clearly lead you in a way that you knew without a doubt that it was HIS voice and no others.  A verse that has become very special to me during this adoption process is Isaiah 30 :18, And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.”

So, I’ve been praying that you would hear God’s Word saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it,’  as you were seeking Him for direction about your adoption.  Therefore, after reading your blog tonight, I see how much He has been answering my prayers.  And my heart is so very happy!

I’m so happy to have ‘met’ your family.  We ‘only’ have five children but I most certainly understand that the dynamics of larger families will work to our benefit for adoptions.  I see your young men and young ladies growing in maturity and helpfulness, and it’s just a fact to me that people who don’t have larger families who home school don’t always ‘get it.’  They just don’t really understand the dynamics.

I just want to encourage you so much!  I don’t have any “success” stories of my own concerning adoption that I can share to counteract the negative things that are out there.  But, I have lots and lots of success stories where our Father is concerned!!!!  Our Father will never lead you where His grace can’t keep you. Keep pressing on.”

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6 Responses to “What a ride!”

  1. Shauna says:

    Goodness I leave the house for a couple of hours and miss all the exciting news :)  So glad that prayers are being answered and things are moving!  And I can’t wait to see the new bathroom.

  2. sabrina says:

    Amazing how God worked all of that out! Praising with you!

  3. Marilyn Osborn says:

    Praising Him for His perfect plans!  Thank you for allowing us to journey with you through the blog.  It is such a blessing.

  4. Lisa says:

    Wow.  See, His will isn’t mysterious.  He makes it known. :)

  5. Susanna says:

    YES, Lisa! :D Doesn’t it just erase all the fear?

  6. Susanna says:

    And thank YOU, Sabrina, for being used of God in this story. I am so excited to see how he moves in your situation, too!

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