No comparison

May 5th, 2010

It has become obvious during this journey that one key to accepting Verity’s differences without sadness is this–never compare her with typical children.  If we perceive her unchangeable challenges as a loss, as something that should be there and is not, that will contribute to feelings of sadness.  If we believe that a good and sovereign God designed her, there is no “should be there and is not,” anyway!  She is just the way she should be because God said so!

The last prick of sadness I felt was back on our family vacation when I was writing in her baby book.  I thought, “She will never sit with her children and read this story to them.”  Then I realized, “I’m breaking the rule!  Why not look for the positives here instead of feeling sad about missing the positives there!” The idea came to me that since Verity will be a visual learner, why not start a photo album just for her that will tell her the story in pictures, as I have done for our other children in words?

My guess is that there are more lessons like this ahead for me!

“But now, O LORD, you are our Father; we are the clay and you are our potter; we are all the work of Your hand.”

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