Don’t take my word for it

March 14th, 2010

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like in the Alps?  People who live that life everyday.

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like as a coal miner?  People who live that life everyday.

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like on a houseboat?  People who live that life everyday.

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like as a famous politician?  People who live that life everyday.

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like with a big family?  People who live that life everyday. 

(Hee hee, had to throw that one in!  We still laugh at the comment from the testy older lady who heard our joyful announcement that we were expecting baby #9, frowned sourly at Joe and said, “I feel sorry for your wife.”  And she would identify herself as a pro-life Christian.  Who should be feeling sorry for whom?! )

I could go on, but obviously my point is…..

Who should you listen to before you make up your mind what life would be like if you had a child with Down syndrome?

I didn’t have to look hard to find way more quotes than I could possibly post here.  In a culture of life rather than the culture of death we live in, here are the sorts of things parents would hear right after their child is given a diagnosis of Down syndrome:

“The worst part of being a parent of a child with Down syndrome is the learning about it part.  The parenting the child part is easy.  The loving the child is easy.”

“While those initial days aren’t easy know that they are the hardest part.  When my son was born I had many worries – mostly fears – of the unknown.  I’m happy to report not one of them has been true!”

“I could never be disappointed in my son. He’s my son. I know God has a plan for him and for us. I know his days were planned before there were even one of them. I know that he was knit together in my womb by an Almighty God who knows exactly what He’s doing. I am incredibly blessed to be this amazing little boy’s mom and I am so very proud of him.”

“Down syndrome isn’t that much different in so many ways, but you don’t get that till you live it.”

“How can you possibly convince people that you really love having a child with Down syndrome without it sounding like you are just trying to make the best of a difficult situation?

You can’t.

“I so wish I could see this as a simple education problem, but I can’t because it’s not….it’s a spiritual problem. People always see what they want to see. Therefore, they will see suffering where none is, they will see hardship when none exists, and they will not see joy where it is in abundance in order to justify their behavior and pacify their hearts, so that they can do what is easy and convenient.”

“Good news! Siblings of those with Down syndrome have been shown to have higher levels of empathy, compassion, and tolerance than siblings of typical kids. Aren’t those qualities we want our kids to have?”

“It is so hard when moms get that diagnosis not to scream ‘YAY!!  Good for you!   You will learn that this life is a good one and this child is going to be so good for you!  You are so lucky lucky lucky to be joining our club.’   We know they will get to the other side, where we are.  I’ve seen so many moms go from being a total wreck to being totally in love.”

“I look at my son and I see pure joy.  Joy in his smile, joy in his baby laughter and joy in his beautiful blue eyes when he sees someone he loves.”

“This child and his life are nothing to be sad about or afraid of!  He is wonderful and perfect.  He is his own little person and he is an amazing blessing to our whole family.”

“I wish everyone could hear the words ‘Your baby has Down syndrome,’ and jump for joy, instead of this sadness.”

“We love having a son with Down syndrome!  While we love each of our six kids fiercely, we have never enjoyed a child as much as this one!”

“[Lord] I thank you for my sweet [son]. Thank you for allowing instant/intense love for a little boy who continues to change our hearts and lives in so many ways. Thank you for introducing us to the amazing and wonderful club of Down syndrome.

“I LOVE my son’s Designer Genes!”

And one of my very favorites~

“I never knew I wanted a baby with Down syndrome until God gave me one.”

No doubt there would still be hard-hearted parents who would choose to kill their babies.  But maybe, just maybe, more parents would question what it was they were so afraid of.  Maybe more would have hope instead of despair.

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4 Responses to “Don’t take my word for it”

  1. >>“I so wish I could see this as a simple education problem, but I can’t because it’s not….it’s a spiritual problem. People always see what they want to see. Therefore, they will see suffering where none is, they will see hardship when none exists, and they will not see joy where it is in abundance in order to justify their behavior and pacify their hearts, so that they can do what is easy and convenient.”<<

    I was at church on Sunday, a supposed-to-be pro-life church. I was holding my sleeping 4 mo old and as people passed by me I noticed lots of smiles. When an older lady stopped and said "I pity you.", why did I feel so crushed? I should expect it, I look at this sleeping angel and think how could someone say that? The world is full of this. A spiritual problem? Yes.

    Thanks for these reminders. :)

  2. Suzy says:

    I don’t know if you’ll ever go back and read this response, but I have to write this: Your blog has been such an awakening to me! I’m so grateful to you and to God for what I have read here. God bless you and your family.

  3. Susanna says:

    Suzy, I certainly do read every response, because I must screen them for possible spam, ugliness, and personal messages.  This time I saw it quickly as I am staying up late to try to catch up writing here.

    Thank you for your comment; it is an encouragement from the Lord to me to keep on pressing on.   

  4. Susanna, what a blessing to find your blog.  I’ve been reading through it these past few days, enjoying your posts.  Our 8th child was born with Down Syndrome.  We had no idea what a blessing she would be to us!  She’s turning 1 next month, and all of us would say that she is the most precious blessing the Lord has entrusted to us.  She is such a joy!  

    I was tickled to read about your adoptions.  Would you believe that the Lord has laid the SAME thing on our hearts?  :-)  We are in the process of adopting a little boy with CP from Ukraine.  The Lord softened our hearts to these children by giving us our first special needs child.  I’m looking forward to reading through the rest of your blog, over time.  
    Here’s my attempt at a blog:    http://unashamedhope.blogspot.com/

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