Susanna, to Joe, “I’m thinking of writing a post called, ‘The elephant in the room.’ Do you have any guesses as to what it will be about?”
Joe, to Susanna, “Uh, will we be having any more children after this?”
I think the core question here could logically be re-phrased this way:
“If you had known Verity would have Down syndrome, would you still have been open to receiving her, or would you have tried to prevent God from creating her in the first place?”
Susanna, to Joe, “What are your thoughts on this perspective?”
Joe, to Susanna, “Wouldn’t that be like saying to God, ‘If this is the kind of child You’re going to give us, we’ll pay You back. We’re going to do everything we can to keep things out of Your hands from now on?'”
A friend recently wrote this in a note to me~
“I know a family with seven children, their daughter with Down syndrome, then two more children.
I have always been so impressed by their youngest two children, know what I mean? It was such a bold, visible statement to the world that Rachel wasn’t such a big mistake that they couldn’t risk another.”
Recently I haven’t been doing much research on the medical aspects of Down syndrome. But I’ve been reading! Besides being hungry for the truth of the Word, I have been devouring true stories written by parents of children with Down syndrome, both in book form and blog form.
One of my online friends is in the process of adopting two orphans with Down syndrome from overseas. She loaned me two books edited by Kathryn Lynard Soper. The first is called Gifts: Mothers Reflect on How Children with Down Syndrome Enrich Their Lives and the second is called Gifts 2: How People with Down Syndrome Enrich the World.
I also found this page while I was following up on some links, and emailed the author to ask her for the book Road Map to Holland, by Jennifer Graf Groneberg. (I was surprised and touched to receive a warm, personal and very helpful reply, written while she was away from home for the weekend. Then she sent us a copy with a hand-written note in it to me!)
Wouldn’t you know that one of the first things I look for in each story is whether or not the parents remained open to receiving more children?
So, if you were wondering what we think about having more children after Verity, we have some questions in return. “What has changed? Has the character of God changed? Has He changed His Word?”
If the Word of God and the opinions of man collide, we don’t believe that God is the One who should bow and stand aside. I’ll tell you what is changing. The more of the truth we learn, the more our fears are changing into excitement that God has chosen to send us this blessing.
Here’s a quote copied from Emily Vesper, one of the contributors to the Gifts book~
“My plans are filled with selfish desire, but the Lord’s plans are perfect.”