Enough of you have asked me the same two questions that I realized it may be good to address them here.
The first ultrasound we got was just a routine mid-pregnancy ultrasound. Medically speaking, it is often recommended to help detect difficulties that may be present. The only thought in my mind as I looked forward to it was, “Now we will know whether we can call this baby Benjamin or Verity!” So no, we were not following up on clues that something was amiss, since as far as we could tell, all was going well.
Amniocentesis is an invasive procedure that the doctor recommended to us on Tuesday. It is over 99% accurate at detecting chromosomal abnormalities in the baby, but it also carries risks of triggering labor. We do not have a moral objection to knowing this information before her birth, and at this point we would find out if there was a safe and inexpensive way to do it. We do have a moral objection to the risk to our baby’s life that this procedure would carry at this point in pregnancy.
In plain words, Verity needs to be kept safe more than her parents need to know what her chromosomes look like before she is born.